Wednesday, February 14, 2007

Not An Angel…

Remorse, we are not angels...

Whether you are a practicing Muslim or not, I think this post is relevant.

Note: This post has nothing to do with me personally. And no, i didn't do anything wrong to trigger this posting :)

There is something that has been annoying me for quite a while now. Although this problem has been around forever tab3an, I have sensed\noticed it clearly over the past few years.
Maybe trying to align myself with the principles of Islam (for the past 5 years or so) has something to do with me actually noticing this trend, I don’t know.
All I know is, this is something I hope people would put into consideration.

What I am talking about is the fact that people tend to judge a practicing Muslim (trying to be motadayen) as if he were an angel (or better put, “as if he has to be an angel”).

Some people mock and severely criticize another person who is known to be religiously oriented out of envy. Either they keep calling him a fake or keep making fun of his opinions.
I can understand that (to an extent), because it is human nature (sub-consciously defending their way of thought or way of life and making themselves feel better about themselves).

The worst part is if he (the “trying to be religious person”) makes a mistake, he will face hell from them and maybe society as a whole (actually, even from other practicing Muslims lelasaf!).

The words of: ”You keep acting as a religious perons, and now look what you did. You are no better than us!”...etc.

People seem to look at it this way,: “Since you are a “trying to be religious person” then you should not do mistakes, if you do a mistake than you are not a religious person! ”.

Well the answer is: “Yes, the person who is “trying to be religious person” shouldn’t make mistakes because he should do his\her best to a good live example of what Islam is about. But…
People! For heavens sake, even the most virtuous person in the world is a human, and helloooooooooooooooo:” Humans make mistakes!”.
The fact that a person who is trying to be religiously oriented made a mistake does not mean he is a bad person (loosely speaking of course).

The Prophet (PBUH) once said (Sunan AL Tirmithi):

قال رسول الله ‏ ‏صلى الله عليه وسلم: ‏ ‏كل ابن ‏ ‏آدم ‏ ‏خطاء فخير الخطائين التوابون

Notice the prophet (PBUH) said the meaning of:“All mankind make mistakes”, no one excluded.
And then said the meaning of: “The best of those are the ones whom repel, ask for forgiveness and try not to do it again” (Tawba).

The difference between the “trying to be religious person” and anyone else is that he (after a sin or mistake) will repel and try never to do it again.
Other people just keep doing mistakes over and over without even slightest sort of remorse (ethical or conscious or even religious).
We (humans) are not angels! Let us stop treating people as if they should act as an angel with no flaws!
Look at it this way...
At least he\she are trying to always be on the right path. The question is, are we (you and I) trying to be on the right path?!
We all say that we are fair people or trying to be fair people, the question is in this case....
Are we really being fair to them?

Mood: ...


N said...

I totally agree with your post & it has become a serious problem with people now, I see it all the time & maybe experience it. It seems that people, whether religious, trying to be or not religious at all, are judging everyone else who isn’t like them we khalas, just the sake of passing judgment. Those who aren’t religious make fun & belittle the religious ones & the religious one acts as if he’s the only one who knows what’s best for religion & is allowed to defend it & every one else has no right.

I strongly believe that religion & practicing religion is a personal thing & no one has any right whatsoever to judge anyone. I assume all are adults so each one is responsible for his actions & will be standing alone & judged by Allah sooner or later. If someone else is involved, like someone being harmed or abused or whatever, then u start talking but still u do not judge the person’s religiousness or lack of religiousness, u judge their actions.

U never know what’s in people’s hearts anyway so the best should be assumed but most of the times, the worst is assumed. All people make mistakes, some are in the open "fel 3alan", others aren't "fel khaffa", so a person can appear to be religious & not be & of course vice versa, we wouldn’t know, & frankly it’s none of anyone’s business to know. The rights & wrongs of living in society are known by all & are a huge part of Islam, deen el mo3amla, & these things seem to be forgotten nowadays for the sake of appearances & mazaher. Each person, in my opinion, is obliged to treat people with basically kindness, respect, fairness & honesty, te3mil eli 3aleik we khalas, & do not expect it from others & do not make assumptions based on appearances. I just wish people would leave every one be because no one will be like anyone else, every one is different & being judgmental only emphasizes differences, and at the end of the day, our opinions about other people’s religiousness mean absolutely nothing, it's God's territory not ours.

Sorry for writing too much :)

Fadfadation said...

I agree with you tab3an.

But i was specifically speaking about the people who are trying to be good (religiously). These are the ones people tend to be very hard one when they make mistakes.

Intead of hitting on them so hard, why not try and help them stand up again?!!

N said...

It is usually the feeling that someone is better than the other, so the easiest way to deal with him is pull him down not help him up, in order to avoid that feeling of him being better or superior. Usually people tend to try to make others like themselves & when one sees someone better than he is, u may find that he'll try to get him to be bad or pull him down emotionally instead of improving himself (maybe that'll be the case initially then later he'll support). Seems its a subconsious thing :)


Belya said...

very well said.
I had to go through such phase of criticism , just for taking a decision that affects no other but myself. It was almost hell unleashed. People who had nothing to do with my decision came to argue my reasons.
But you know one thing, such times are the true test for your faith. It shows how much can you hold on to what you believe

Fadfadation said...

Yeah Belya,

I know what you mean. Sometimes people can really get on someones back.

THe problem is, when that someone is trying to do the right thing and people are asking him:"why bother?!".