In continuation to my previous post about the proof from Quran and Suna that Muslim men only can marry non-muslims Christian or Jews , today I’ll try and put the different reasons behind such a rule.
I am not saying I know everything nor am I saying I have all the answers. This is just a humble try to search behind the reasoning of such a rule.
Note: We as muslims can only try to find the reasoning, we have to remember that we are by no way capable of knowing ALL the reasoning why God did something in a certain way.
These are the different opinions I either heard people say or certain Islamic Scholars saying…
1- One reason I read...
As far as how Islam is passed on, it is very widely known it is passed on via the father. This goes a long way towards explaining the notion against women marrying out of the religion.
The rule was put in place so that there would be more Muslims, period. It has nothing to do with faith, just breeding. If men marry women from different backgrounds, but the children must be Muslim, you have more Muslims. If a Muslim woman married a non-Muslim, the children might become non-Muslim like the father and that is unacceptable and the goal is to make more Muslims. That is why polygamy is allowed as well. It’s that simple.
Note: I stated the above as the person (was a non-muslims) said it. I don't totally agree with every word.
2- Another one i also read...
A Muslim male marrying a non-Muslim female = the opinions of females regarding religion are not relevant once they choose to marry a Muslim and accept that their children will be raised as Muslims.
A Muslim female marrying a non-Muslim male = the kids will not be raised Muslim, and he is not accepting the hegemony of Islam.
3- Another reasoning I heard from Islamic scholars (and thought of)…
You: “Do you think emotions can fog someone’s way of thinking, make them misjudge things?”
Usually everyone will say “yes”.
You: “Do you think women are more emotional than men?”
If someone says no…
You: ”how many times have you seen or heard that in real life (or even in movies) women say the following about a bad relationship that ended: “oh, everyone told me this won’t work, but I still went on and not listen”?
Someone: “many times” or at least they’ll agree they did hear it before.
You: ”how many times have you heard a man say that?”
Someone: ”never” or at least very rarely.
You: ” this simple example sort of proves two things:
1- Women are more emotional than men
2- Their emotions DO affect their judgment (men too of course). "
One might say, well not all women have their emotions take over them, just like not all men are rational.
The answer is "yes"…you’re right. But, any ideology in the world, whether religious or political or even economical puts its rules and legislation to protect THE MAJORITY. And as it is known that the majority of women are more emotional than the majority of men, especially when they are in love (which affects their judgment).
So, to sum up, one of the main reasons women are not allowed to marry non-muslims is because they are more emotional than men (vast majority).
Think of it, how can one be sure that emotions will not take over the woman while she is married to a non-muslim ???!
Islam said no to muslim women marrying non-muslims to protect them from themselves.
Finally, the mere fact that some women (who fall in love with a non-muslim and want to marry him) are having second thoughts about their religion because it is forbidding them from marrying a non-muslim, is a clear proof that emotions (when they take over a woman) "DO" affect their judgment to the extent that she (instead of defending her religion) is actually willing (or at least thinking) of letting it go (her faith in her religion, as in reverting from Islam) easily because she just wants something in a certain way for her own benefit or preference.
I am not stating that all women are like that, nor am I saying that men are better muslims than women. I am only talking about the way emotions take over a woman…bas
Note: In such cases where a non-muslim man and a muslim woman are in love, there is always the solution that the non-muslim man can embrace Islam and marry the muslim woman, then problem solved for both sides.
4- The last one (heard it from an islamic scholar)…
This one I personally used in a discussion before with a foreigner and he understood my point. I am not saying that it will convince ALL people. It is just another way to look at the issue…
To simply put it…
Since Judaism came first, and then Christianity and finally Islam, we (as people) were ordered to follow each religion when it was sent to man kind through Prophets. All religions (Islam, Christianity and Judaism) are from the same God and they come one after the other.
A Muslim man is not a true believer if he does not believe in and respect all Prophets (including of course Moses and Jesus who came before Mohammed).
So, in other words a Muslim man respects and believes in the Christian woman’s prophet (who is her idol and soul father).
Not only that… we (as Muslims) have a large part of Quran talking about Moses and praising him. The same goes for Jesus, a whole chapter in Quran is named after his mother Marry. And we as Muslims believe she is the most pure woman ever.
Not only that… we also believe Jesus is the one who will descend to earth and lead this world at the end of time.
On the other hand, a Christian man (for example) does not believe in Islam (which was the last religion sent from God) and does not believe Mohammed (PBUH) is a prophet.
In other words, he does not respect or believe in the Muslim woman’s idol and soul father.
That is fine and it is his right (the non-muslim man) to believe in what he wants.
But, he does not have the right to come ask the father of the Muslim woman to marry her if he doesn’t even respect and believe in her idol\soul father (Mohammed PBUH).
How can a father feel safe to let him marry and take care of his daughter if that person doesn’t even respect her idol\soul father?!!!!
These were the ones i heard about or read somewhere...
Maybe some (or even all) of the points make sense to you.
Maybe you think there are other reasons and you can mention them.
Maybe non of them make sense to you. It’s up to you; you can believe what you want.
I just wanted to mention some of the different opinions that were mentioned about the reasoning behind the Islamic rule why muslim women can not marry non-muslims men (Christians or Jews).
Wallaho A3lam :)