For those who don't know who the girl is, she is an Egyptian who passed away in a car accident on the North Coast highway in Egypt. She was a young AUCian graduate (from the American University In Cairo).
This is not to talk about her (the deceased) or say anything about death. This is about the new "moda" that is ripping Egyptians (middle to high class ones).
What do i want to say ??
I want to ask Egyptians...
Ento malko? 7asaloko eh? 7ata fel moot ba2a feeh moda weee the "Hip" thing?
la2 seriously! what is wrong with you people?!!!
I mean, if any Egyptian has an account on Facebook surely (s)he'll find one or more of his\her friends either talking about that group "Pray for Reem Mostafa Abaza" or even being part of it.
If you check that group, you'll find people who have nothing to do with the deceased joining the group and saying things like:
- besara7a ..ana ma3rafsh reem(all7yer7amha) bas ...
- ana magtlesh el forsa any 2ashofk bas bgd konty ensana gamela...
- heloo i really dont know Reem ..but i
And those were just a sample of what i am talking about...
One might ask me: "Why are you so annoyed? people are concerned about her and praying that God will forgive her and let her enter Heaven".
I'd answer back and say: "If you actually think that what you mentioned is my problem, then you misunderstood me!".
If someone dies and his\her friends make a group and do or say what is on that group, then of course that is normal and great actually.
Even for people that don't know her, for them to add note like "Allah yer7amha" that is very good too.
My problem is that i am feeling that "some" people (i am stressing on the some part) are joining in just because "Everyone" is heading there. In other words, because it is a "moda" or the "Talked About" thing.
Over the past few years Egyptians (middle to high class) have been heading towards an obnoxious trend of imitating each other, showing off and wanting to always be part of "The Hip thing or event".
What strikes me is that people are using the same mentality in death too.
I mean, for heaven's sake the group has 4,188 members! Obviously, most of them don't even know her! wala eh?!
Maybe you'd say:" Well, you should encourage people to stand together and not criticize them."
I'd answer:" I am not criticizing "ALL" people, i am criticizing the moda mentality (and whoever is doing it)".
For God's sake, some people who don't even know her want to help build a Mosque in her name!!"
You might say:" That's good...what's your problem?".
I'd say:" That proves the "moda" issue i am talking about. Because if this person - who doesn't know her - is so virtuous and kind to the the extent of building a Mosque for a stranger, then we'd guess that this is what he\she does for anyone. Does (s)he???!!!!"
Of course not!
Think of it, do you want to convince me that everyone on that group gives charity for someone they don't know or anyone who dies in an accident?
That of course is impossible and nonsense!
Thousands of people die yearly in Egypt because of accidents (official numbers are close to 6,000 per year). Non of you (pretenders) seemed so concerned!
You might say:" Well, you talk a lot...what do you do for people who die in accidents? you should practise what you preach!"
My answer is: "I don't do anything! That is why i am not part of the Pray Reem Abaza group!
i will not act or pretend and show off my feelings all over the place. Yes, my heart is with anyone who loses someone. But, tamseel wee manzara fel moot...la2 ma3lesh...keda keteer!"
Think of it this way..
Person X reads in the newspaper that someone he doesn't know passed away. He gets dressed and then goes to the funeral. He then gets out his wallet and "in fornt of everyone" puts money for charity for that person.
That is exactly what people are doing in our case here... showing off!
I even found some of the people i know going into that group. When i asked if they knew her, they didn't!
Then, why are you joining that group? i ask. The honest answer is\was\would be "Everyone is going in so we thought we'd see what's all this about!!!".
I might be overreacting, but my worry is that "some" people (stress again on some) are doing this just because the "IT" people (Aucians and all) are in there, so why not be part of the "hip thing"!
My concern is about the showing off that became part of our culture... even in DEATH!
Mood: Extremely Concerned!